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Happiness and Living Longer

Published by Mario D. Garrett, Ph.D. in iAge

Happy people live longer. While happy countries have higher life expectancy. Scientists have even documented that happy orangutans are living longer. It would seem that happiness is an important commodity. With older adults there is a conspiracy to be happy. Not only do happy people live longer but older adults are more likely to become happier with age.

What makes us so happy? In The Paradox of Choice: Why More Is Less, Barry Schwartz documents that the secret for happiness is not having a great choice or achieving your goals and dreams. No. Happiness comes from accepting what you have, being happy with the choices that you made. Having more choices makes us less happy. And it does not matter what those choices are. Which is why Daniel Gilbert’s cheerfully engaging  Stumbling On Happiness is so good. The argument that it is not choices that make us happy,  but our acceptance of the choices we make has generated a lot of interest. In psychology Paul Baltes’s model of selection, optimization, and compensation (SOC) argues that it is essential for successful development that older adults maximize their remaining capacities and minimize their losses. We do not choose to experience losses. But we choose to accept them.

In 2010 Alex Bishop and his colleagues working with the Georgia Centenarian Study found that happiness among these exceptionally older people was determined by “congruence” which was defined by three statements, one of which was: „I would not change my past life even if I could.“

„Even if I could.“ This is an important admission. If you are getting frailer, becoming more diminished, experiencing the loss of lovers, friends and colleagues, and facing increasing challenges you have limited options, and none of them include reversing this trend. The best utilization of your energies is to accept the changes and assume that you are destined to be here. Wherever “here” is. What psychologists call a positive character-disposition and strong adaptability to the adversities of their life. You are meant to be where you are.

And this attitude starts earlier in life, not learned when you become an older adult. Accepting “bad” choices, painful loss, forgiving people, being content with what you have in terms of money and health is how you tell your body that you are happy where you are and that you not ready to go just yet. You belong here still. Even if you could change circumstances, you would choose the same path because that is what made you.

Happiness tells your body that you are still present. That you are needed.

W.P. Kinsella in his book Shoeless Joe admits that „Success is getting what you want; happiness is wanting what you get.“ We are too concerned with success and our expression of that. What we should be looking at are vestiges of happiness. Smile wrinkles and laugh lines. Perhaps then we might stop trying to hide how we look.


Published by Mario D. Garrett, Ph.D. in iAge Happy people live longer. While happy countries have higher life expectancy...

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Внимание!!! Първокласник…


1. Най-важно е абсолютното приемане на детето с всички негови способности и недостатъци. Това е гаранция за взаимното разбирателство у дома.

2. Опитайте се да разберете трудностите, пред които са изправени децата при преминаване от детската градина в училище (I клас)  и от началното училище към средното общообразувателно училище (V клас). Не отказвайте на вашето дете помощ за домашните, ако то ви помоли. Но и не правете нищо, вместо самото дете.

3. Помогнете на детето да запомни имената и фамилиите на своите учители.

4. Не се изказвайте негативно за училището и учителите в прсъствие на детето, дори да смятате, че има причина за това. По-добре е учителят да бъде ваш съюзник.

5. Осигурете на детето удобно работно място у дома и спазването на подходящ за неговата възраст режим на обучение-отдих-хранене-сън.

6. Погрижете се вашето дете да намери приятели в класа си и ги поканете на гости у дома.

7. Създайте на детето емоционален комфорт у дома; научете се да общувате с неговите връстници.

8. Радвайте се на постиженията на вашето дете. Не допускайте сравнения с други деца; давайте оценка не на самото дете, а на неговите постъпки.

9. Независимо кога, откъде и в какъв вид да се прибере вашето дете, го посрещайте с любов у дома.

10.Четете литература за възпитанието на децата.

  1. Най-важно е абсолютното приемане на детето с всички негови способности и недостатъци. Това е гаранция за взаимното...

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4 Ways Sugar Could Be Harming Your Mental Health

A high-sugar diet impacts both physical and mental health.

Most people know that eating too much dessert and processed food can contribute to physical health problems like obesity and type 2 diabetes. Far less attention has been given to the impact of a high-sugar diet on mental health, though numerous studies have shown the deleterious effects a sweet tooth can have on mood, learning and quality of life. In addition to inflating waistlines, sugar and other sweeteners, including high fructose corn syrup, honey, molasses and maple syrup, may contribute to a number of mental health problems:

1. Depression

The roller coaster of high blood sugar followed by a crash may accentuate the symptoms of mood disorders. Research has tied heavy sugar consumption to an increased risk of depression and worse outcomes in individuals with schizophrenia. There are a couple theories explaining the link. Sugar suppresses activity of a hormone called BDNF that is low in individuals with depression and schizophrenia. Sugar is also at the root of chronic inflammation, which impacts the immune system, the brain and other systems in the body and also has been implicated in depression. Interestingly, countries with high sugar intake also have a high rate of depression.

2. Addiction

Although controversial, a growing body of evidence points to the addictive potential of sugar. Both drugs and, to a lesser extent, sugar and processed junk foods flood the brain with the feel-good chemical dopamine, over time changing the function of the brain. In a study by researchers at Yale University, the simple sight of a milkshake activated the same reward centers of the brain as cocaine among people with addictive eating habits. A 2007 study showed that rats actually prefer sugar water to cocaine. Rats given fatty and sugary products demonstrated classic symptoms of addiction including tolerance and withdrawal symptoms when the products were taken away.

3. Anxiety

The Standard American Diet, which is full of sugar and fat, does not necessarily cause anxiety but it does appear to worsen anxiety symptoms and impair the body’s ability to cope with stress. Individuals who suffer from panic attacks, for example, are hyper-alert to signs of impending danger. Sugar can cause blurry vision, difficulty thinking and fatigue, all of which may be interpreted as signs of a panic attack, thereby increasing worry and fear. A sugar high and subsequent crash can cause shaking and tension, which can make anxiety worse.

Research has established a correlation between sugar intake and anxiety. In a 2008 study, rats that binged on sugar and then fasted displayed anxiety, and in a 2009 study rats fed sucrose compared to high-antioxidant honey were more likely to suffer anxiety. While dietary changes alone cannot cure anxiety, they can minimize symptoms, boost energy and improve the body’s ability to cope with stress.

4. Learning and Memory

Sugar may also compromise cognitive abilities such as learning and memory. In an animal study by the University of California Los Angeles, six weeks of taking a fructose solution (similar to soda) caused the rats to forget their way out of a maze, whereas rats that ate a nutritious diet and those that consumed a high-fructose diet that also included omega-3 fatty acids found their way out faster. The high sugar diet caused insulin resistance, which in turn damaged communications between brain cells that fuel learning and memory formation.

Recognizing these and other risks, the trends in sugar consumption seem to be changing. People are consuming less sugar – about 13 percent of their daily calories – which is still far too much, but clear progress from 18 percent just over a decade ago. Our bodies were never intended to handle the amount of sugar that has become the norm in the American diet. At least now we’re beginning to recognize that the mind and body are intricately connected and both must be nurtured to achieve optimal health.

A high-sugar diet impacts both physical and mental health. Published by David Sack, M.D. in Where Science Meets the Step...

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Ритуалите като начин да внесете повече смисъл в живота си


Ритуалите упражняват мощно влияние в нашето ежедневие. Някои от тях, например, задължителното приготвяне и пиене на кафе сутрин, ни дават ресурси за началото на новия ден, без да навлизат в дълбочината на определени структури, като осигуряват чувство на стабилност и сигурност.

Други ритуали, като например, проверката на заключената входна врата, ни карат да се чувстваме в безопасност и ни дават усещане за контрол. Прилагането на малки ритуали при нашето ежедневно хранене могат да ни бъде от полза да се храним всеки път с апетит. Например, ако винаги рендосваме морковите, когато приготвяме салати, това ще ни накара да чувстваме, че отбръщаме специално внимание на тялото си и правим нещо добро за него.

Малките ритуални действия са върхът на айсберга на нашите несъзнателни желания и чувства.

Психологът Робърт А. Джонсън определя ритуалите като „малки, символични действия за създаване на връзка между съзнанието и подсъзнанието”. В своите трудове той използва сънищата като портал към подсъзнанието. След анализ на това, какво означава дадено съновидение, той приканва към извършване на малък ритуал, който „да прибави още един слой осъзнатост към съня”.

Като пример Джонсън описва съня на млад мъж. Той сънува постоянно, че прекарва вечерите си с приятели в ресторанти, барове, заведения за бързо хранене и смята тези срещи за напразно загубено време. В този случай, според Джонсън, отношението на младия мъж към хората е представено чрез метафората „нездравословна храна”. След като разбира, че символът „нездравословна храна” е свързан с начина, по който живее своя живот, този млад човек измисля ритуал, чрез който да сложи край на формалните си отношения с приятели: купува много храна от McDonalds и я заравя в двора на вилата си. Това е един своеобразен начин за разбиране езика на подсъзнанието, като използваме нашите сънища.

Ритуалите са жестове на благоговение; признаване на процеси, които са извън нашия контрол. Ако човек не може да признае, че има неща, които се намират извън неговия контрол, това значително намалява усещането му за съзнателен смисъл на живота и той започва „да се храни” със сигналите, достигащи до него от подсъзнанието. Затова днес много хора, без да имат значими ритуали в своя живот, страдат от хронично чувство на празнота.  

Ритуалите като начин да се внесете повече смисъл във вашия живот, звучи обещаващо – като лесен начин да бъде запълнена празнотата.

Започнете да анализирате вашите ежедневни ритуали. Това ще бъде едно добро начало да промените живота си.

  Ритуалите упражняват мощно влияние в нашето ежедневие. Някои от тях, например, задължителното приготвяне и пиене на ка...

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8 Ways to Make Your Relationship Work Better

Communication. Being able to share the emotional, mental, physical, and spiritual aspects of your life, without feeling judged or devalued, is what good communication is all about. Neither you nor your partner is a mind reader, so you need to let each other know what you’re thinking and feeling. Remember that communication is the most important part of your relationship.

Acknowledgment. From simply saying thank you to expressing your appreciation on a deeper level, you need to let each other know that you are grateful for one another’s actions and supportive of each other’s efforts. Look for every opportunity to show your partner that you are receiving your love’s positive energy and responding appropriately.

Interdependence. Being truly interdependent means being involved with each other in a supportive manner without compromising your values or sacrificing yourself for the relationship.  Interdependence means having time to yourself as well as time together. The key is finding the right balance.

Playfulness. Have fun together. Whether it’s the tried-and-true or something new, being playful keeps your love growing. Every time you do something to make your partner smile, it creates chemicals like oxytocin, sometimes called the “cuddle hormone,” in both of your brains, which makes you feel closer.

Acceptance. We all need to learn how to accept each other and our circumstances, so we can move forward in a way that enhances our lives and relationships. Make an honest assessment of where you are in your life right now and accept it. It’s the only way you can move to the next level.

Positivity. Make the mutual choice to maintain a positive attitude. Being positive may be the key to keeping harmony. You can control your behaviors and even your moods when necessary, and having a loving partner who is willing to be there for you, even when you are struggling, can’t help but make your relationship more positive.

Reinforcement. Showering your partner with little gifts, staying in touch during the day if you’re apart, and being there for your partner, no matter what, are just some of the ways you can reinforce your relationship. Be mindful of any actions or behaviors that might undermine your love and get them changed ASAP.

Honesty. Having a partner you can trust creates a buffer between you and the difficulties of the world. When you have a mate you can rely on, it’s easier to take those risks that help you grow. Always be honest with each other about your feelings and needs, and remember that you can tell the truth without being harsh.

Every successful relationship needs the care and nurturing of two committed adults, giving to each other in a way that creates a mutually beneficial connection.

Giving your relationship what it needs to thrive is a truly loving gesture. Make the effort. You are both worth it.

Published by Barton Goldsmith, Ph.D. in Emotional Fitness Communication. Being able to share the emotional, mental, phys...

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